Two years after Tom passed I received a phone call on a Saturday Morning. It was a Private Investigator. She asked for me by maiden name and I replied to yes that was me. I inquired as to why she was looking for me? She said we had a mutual friend who wanted to make sure you and your children are ok. I said “What does John want?” She asked how did you know and I replied: You can’t have a birthday on the same day and year and not know when someone was thinking about you.
John was someone I dated long before Tom and we went our separate ways. I was not ready to settle down when he asked me to marry him. I was still emotionally healing from the first marriage. I had a board meeting that day in Toronto and we met for a drink after my meeting. It had been approx 16 years since I had seen him.
We dated and semi lived together for the first year. I went off into the jungles of Peru to heal from my loss. In the jungles of Peru I had this conversation with spirit. You should marry John. No, I am happy with the status quo and I do not wish to remarry. I do not wish to change my name. Nor do I want my children to have to deal with a different names within the family. I came from a community where growing up a lot of that occurred and I saw the impact on many families. I will not do that to them. Ah , but HE NEEDS IT. Simple, marry him and do not change your name.
I came home from Peru and asked if he still wanted to be married. He set the date and we were married with our best friends attending and James and Truly standing up for us. Of course since all our birthdays are on 27, John chose November 27. No one will forget the date.
So let me share the solution to the names problem. Everyone called John –Mr Folkes. A year later he came home with forms to official change his name. He decided on his own that this was a very simple solution. He is now my “John James Folkes”. See love takes care of everything. I am truly blessed with another love to continue on with. In love and light