I have had a few very interesting conversations lately. I am always amazed how uncomfortable people are about the subject of death, dying and what to do. I don’t how it became so difficult for most, as we eventually all die. Choices made about funerals and dying requests are really a part of life. We should have a will so that those loved ones left behind follow you wishes especially if you cannot talk about it.
When you lose someone you love, it is often very difficult to make the necessary decisions. Each family member grieving often has their own ideas on what is appropriate. If guilt is involved that may make choices that are costly and not necessary causing arguments and disruptions in family dynamics that can become bigger issues during the process.
So let share some simple ideas to start. Write down how to address your personal belongings and what you would like for a funeral. This can be left where the family can find it easily. Ie: desk, jewelry box, in amongst your files and let someone you trust know. Wills are usually simple and most cost about $300. per person. You are the only one who can decide what you want done. If money is an issue check out The Simple Alternative. Most Funeral Homes do not announce this service as it is much cheaper. I urge you do decide and perhaps even make your own arrangements. In my files I have prearranged Funeral Services for those who chose to help write their own service. I am always open to helping make it easier.
Putting everything in place can bring you comfort that when the time comes you have taken the burden of putting everything organized to help ease the pain of loss. Food for thought. In love and light
Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All of that unspent love gathers in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in the hallow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.