My mother in law Marg was not happy with the decision to place her in a long time care facility. It was a hard decision for the family. She had Sundowners Alzheimers and Cancer. I have great respect and understanding for anyone who has to make these kinds of choices. It is never easy.When mental and physical health of the family are being affected it is not longer a choice.
For the first few months Marg was angry with me. Often individuals choose one person to take their anger out on. It was me. I knew it was the illness as we did not argue or have major issues.
I adored Johns’ mom as she was a kind considered and loving person. Adored the kids and was included in almost everything we did as a family. Often we would go shopping together.She was a people watcher and would go for coffee just to watch others.
When I was rushed to the hospital having anxiety attack the decision was made. We had brought a good friend who worked with seniors to be with her Monday to Friday 24 hours a day until we were able to place her. Our friend Dorthea was great with Margaret and we knew she was in good hands. Margaret has completed LIFE REVIEW and dropped in a few weeks ago filling the house with smoke She has come back to say sorry for how she was during that period of illness. I was aware it was the illness, not her. We are good.
When we were back on track I would go and visit and spent time talking about everything I thought she want to know about. She spent her last afternoon signing Irish Songs and laughing with me. We made peace which I am grateful for it makes it easier. She was a wonderful person and I am grateful she was in my life and encouraged her son to find me 2 years after Tom passed.
In love and light