My mother in law Margaret has completed life review and is back to visit. Hence the house is filled with cigarette smoke. She was a heavy smoker. It is so intense at time that even her son who smokes can smell it.
We had to place Magaret in a nursing facility as she had cancer and Sundowners -Alzheimers. She had two small dogs. Molly 5 yrs old, who would run from the Granny suite in to visit the moment the door between the apartments would open .Molly was delighted to be loved and patted by everyone. The other Shitzu, 3 yr old Patches, was only Marg’s and never left her side. When Marg was placed in the Nursing facility Patches stopped eating. We did everything we could, even tried to forced feed her. I am not sure who that was harder on. Within a few week she died of a broken heart in my family room .
The smoke in the house was Margaret being upset that she had not prepared Patches for her leaving. I understand that she feels guilty about not preparing Patches for the loss. Animals like people often choose not to stay when they have been attached to a loved one. I am working with Margaret to explain this is simply how it is and it is about the choice of the person or animal left behind. Patches was only here for her and life was not worth living without her. Sad, however we did our best.
In love and light